Staying in your singleness is not easy
For a long time I was dependent on the idea that I needed to be in a relationship, but constantly obsessing over it not only damages you emotionally, but spiritually as well. Our priority as followers of Christ should be developing a stronger relationship with God, and teaching others of His love. While on earth, we are allowed to have fun and enjoy life, but when we start to prioritize living for ourselves over Christ, we could be turning further and further away from Him.
In 1 Corinthians 7 the Apostle Paul speaks about singleness as a gift and how it is better to be single than to be in a relationship for many. Personally, I know that my heart still desires marriage in the future, but I know that marriage is a blessing that God will give me when I am ready. In the mean time, it is important for me to understand how to be happy while single.
So here are some of the things I have learned in the last couple of months for me to be happy and content in this period of my life.
Find Your Passion
One of the things that keeps me from wanting to move faster than God intended is to find a hobby or passion. Staying busy and doing what I love allows for me to be focused more on my own happiness instead of worrying about my "loneliness".
It's common to start feeling like you're alone, and that you're lacking attention, but don't fall for that trick!
Time and time again I have listened to the voice in my ear telling me that I needed someone to have fun, and enjoy life when I have everything I need in the palm of my hands.
God has given you the opportunity to do whatever your heart desires. He constantly opens doors and gives ways for your happiness to overrule your loneliness. So while you are waiting on that person God has for you, enjoy your life. Find some things that you love to do, and do not be afraid to take chances on your happiness.
Trust in God
One of the things I've realized during this period of singleness is that even though I'm okay with being in this stage of my life, I still have a desire of getting married sometime in the future but for a while I was too impatient and forced myself in relationships that I said were from God, but really were for my benefit.
If you are feeling that loneliness mentioned previously, I want to encourage you to continue to trust in God. He knows the desires of your heart and is preparing you for the time when you're ready for the blessings He has for you. Being single is a gift. Trust that God has a plan and that He will help you get through this process.
In almost every blog post I talk about trusting in God, but that's because its SUPER IMPORTANT. God created YOU. He knows everything about YOU.
Your life is in His hands, so wouldn't you want to just let Him take over your singleness and your future relationship?
When you trust in God for your future spouse, it gets rid of the counterfeit men/ women that fool you and trap you into a relationship that is not God sent. Proverbs 3:5-6 says to Trust in the Lord and not lean on your own understanding. You are sure to let yourself down, but God is constant and will never steer you in the wrong direction. So be patient and trust in Him.
Who Are You?
During this stage of singleness we don't really think about taking the time to do what WE want to do. Our lives don't start when we are in relationships. So while you're in this stage of singleness, take the time to learn about you. Date yourself. Have fun. Explore the world around you while you have the time.
Along with finding your passion, take the time to learn fully all about yourself. You have to live with yourself 24/7 and before your future spouse loves you, you need to love you.
[If you are interested in some tips and self love dates and activities please let me know in the comments!]
YOU ARE SONS AND DAUGHTERS OF THE KING OF KINGS. TREAT YOURSELF AS THE ROYALTY YOU ARE.
Stay Blessed, Be Blessed.